Originally posted by ROADRAGE@Apr 9 2004, 10:51 PM
anyway guys, thanks for all ur hep but like e_ti said...its easier said than done. In some ways i have been harboring intentions to be back with her but another part of me says that its not worth it and leaving someone who has sacrificed so much for me is not something im used to doing...
like wannabe said i considered suicide but that was in the past...things just have a way of coming back at ya when the wounds start to heal...i cant seem to make a decision and the thing is im just postponing it waiting for the situation to take care of itself....i understand thats probably not the wisest thing to do but i cant help it
bravery is not one of my stronger traits and i guess im just delaying the inevitable and running away from the problem
If it was easier done than said, there would be no problems in the world. Everyone would be rich and prosperous and happy. However, since it is easier said than done, people do not do what they need to do to solve a problem properly.
Instead, they allow themselves to be influenced and affected by the problem. And as such, things get worst and more and more people get hurt. It's a cycle.
Isn't it time to break the cycle? Just because something's hard to do doesn't mean you shouldn't try to do it. Do what is right, not what is most easy to do. Another thing hard to practise, I know, but doesn't mean it cannot be done.
Just move on man. There isn't any point in wasting any more of your self on something which has gone and happened. Life goes on. At the end of the day, time goes on, we get older. Whether we like it or not. As such, you don't have a choice regardless of whether it's easier said than done or not. 'Cause if you don't do it, you'll get worst. So you might as well just try doing it and learn one thing at a time. Whatever that doesn't kill you can only make you stronger.
At the end of the day, all of us struggle to make hard decisions, and problems WILL happen, regardless of what happens. But in life, what matters not is the problems that happen, but HOW YOU GO THROUGH the problems. That will shape who you are. Nothing's easy, that is of course true, but if you don't solve it, things will only get worst. So you might as well just try to solve the problem.
And suicide's not the way either. It's easy to just look at the problem and say "ahh heck it, i'll just commit suicide", but at the end of the day, someone will bear the brunt of your actions, in this case, your parents. How would you answer to them when you have to face them in the afterlife?
And take this as words from someone who has tried suicide. Don't waste your life so easily, for do not take for granted of the things you have.
Time heals all, but you first have to move on before time can do it's work.
Good luck man.
PS: Attached is the prayer of the late General Douglas McArthur for his son.
A Father's Prayer for his son
Build me a son, O Lord, who will be strong enough to know when he is weak,
And brave enough to face himself when he's afraid;
One who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat,
And humble and gentle in victory.
Build me a son whose wishbone will not be where his backbone should be;
A son who will know Thee - and that to know himself is the foundation stone of knowledge.
Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort, but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge.
Here let him learn to stand up in the storm;
Here let him learn compassion for those who fail.
Build me a son whose heart will be clear, whose goal will be high;
A son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men;
One who will learn to laugh, yet never forget how to weep;
One who will reach into the future, yet never forget the past.
After all these things are his, add, I pray, enough of a sense of humor, so that he may not always be serious, yet never take himself too seriously.
Give him humility, so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness, the open mind of true wisdom, and the meekness of true strength.
Then, I his father, will dare to whisper, "I have not lived in vain."