WAHLAUWEHHHH.. I go holiday for 2 days and you all write 5 pages for me to read ah??? :P Okok..lemme answer feerio's questions :
1. L & Y story.. now there are 2 things I see wrong in your attitude in the story. Firstly, you should not have just given up on her just like that. Women are not always after good looks and body beautiful guys. Hell, my girlfriend likes me to have a little 'fat' here and there so she can hug me like her bolster. :) And another thing, MOST women would be super possesive of their bf if he was good looking cuz they'd be ALWAYS worried about the guy running off with another girl or another girl trying to fish him away from her. Very baaaaaad.. Next time, try to go all out and get her attention, but realistic attention. Buying exp gifts and all never work, unless you want her to be materialisitc with you. Tips for you :
- Take her out.. tell her about your childhood and communicate about everything. If she enjoys your company then you have her attention.
- Be open. If you feel you like her.. TELL HER! But do it very subtly and never pounce on her with your confession. Do it like "What if I had told you that lots of guys have feelings for you.. guys like me?" that kinda thing.. then play with the "what if" story to see her reaction. NEVER confess up front and if she plays along, throw in a few more what ifs and end it by changing the topic.. Keep her guessing.. the more she thinks about your question, the more she thinks about u. Therefore psychologically psycho-ing her into assessing her feelings for you.
- Take her out a few more times and each time give her a little token or gift. Find out what she likes (Hello kitty key chains, etc) and just say you saw this on the shelf the other day and remembered that she liked it.. so you got it for her. That kinda thing. But subtle.. and go slow..
- Make sure you don't misunderstand her reactions.. just because she touched you on your shoulder means she wanna have sex with you. It means she's comfortable enough to touch you on your shoulder.
- NEVER SUDDENLY GRAB HER HAND like what your friend Y (or was it L?) did. It sometimes works but the end result will be she will be confused and her reaction will either be : YUCK!! HANDS AWAAAAAAY... or AIYAAAAA.. WHAT TO DO NOW HAH??? Die die die die.. It is never "YESSSSSS!!".
- Ask her out (after several positive successful dates) for a cup of coffee or dinner in a nice place. Doesn't have to be expensive, just make sure you can talk comfortably.. therefore Hardrock or Planet hollywood is a no no.. Try Italianis in 1Utama.. very nice place. Talk to her.. if you both still have a lot to talk about during that time.. ask her up front if you were to attempt to hold her hand, what would be her reaction. If she's quiet about it.. stick her palm out (like offering to hold her hand) and see if she puts her hand onto yours. If yes, then she's yours. If not, she'll probably say something. But don't give up.. if she says no.. just say "OK! *smile* No problem.. I didn't want to scare u with the traditional tactic of just grabbing your hand.. so anyway.. let's eat!" *change topic* :lol:
- Be COOL with her if she rejects you.. still ajak her out and act like nothing has changed and still be friendly. She might be a little shy with you.. but try to make her feel comfortable and just act exactly the same. After a few more dates, ask to hold her hand again.. and I guarantee you.. if she still refuses.. she's lesbian. :lol: Or unless she treats you as her bro la.
- Remember : Women are romantics.. so be romantic and she'll fall for you faster than you can say "Rumplestiltskins". When I say romantic, I don't mean wine-dine etc. I mean be a gentleman, open doors for her (your car or anything), pull her seat out for her, a simple flower for special occassions (like 1 month anni for being friends), sticking up for her in an argument with someone else or basically protecting her, waiting for her to go into the house b4 you cabot off after sending her home.. that kinda thing. Chivalry is still alive!
- Take your time to go after her.. materialistic things don't always appeal but they do mean something if given on the right time and occassion. Go all out on her birthday and send her mom a bday gift if its her mom's bday.. everything la.. just take notice of everything about her.
- Her parents are the key to keeping a good relationship. Girls generally have good relationships with their moms and if you get on the parents good side, even the parents will help you out to kao your potential girlfriend. Don't overdo it tho. Overzealousness will be the death of you.
2. Your pretty friend talked with you quite a lot before she got to know your other friend. So why did that change? Not because SHE changed.. but because YOU changed.. so she's not a bitch for changing.. she's not anything. She was probably thinking.. "Aiya.. Feerio trying to set me up with this guy issit? Why he ignoring me so much nowadays"
So you see.. you fundamentally made a few errors which caused your downfall.
Jeff : Heh.. you must be good looking la bro.. how can other guys wanna beat you up otherwise? :D Come la.. let's go yum char some day and we decide whether to whack kao you or to intro you our girlfriends.. hehehehheheheheh :lol: Joking ah brudder
Someone talked about sex without obligation.. or the friendly sex thing.. unfortunately there is such a thing in malaysia and I think it's one helluva fucked up thing. It's wrong, it's unhealthy and ultimately it will destroy you if you get it into your system thinking "It's OK to do this". I mean, who digs there noses? Do you do it all the time? Do you do it unconsciously sometimes? Yes! So if you start doing this friendly fuck thing.. eventually your mind will start to think it's OK to do it with this guy.. it's a no string attached thing. But think about the long term. How will that affect you and your future partner? Anyway, I disagree with people who do these things and it's really unhygenic considering the extremely alarming rise in sexually transmitted diseases nowadays. HIV is rampant in Thailand, gnorrhea is PAINFUL (or so the doc tells me), yeast is disgusting.. the list goes on. What's worse is most of these STDs are NOT CURABLE and can only be 'restrained' with antibiotics. Free sex? Think again. Condoms may work.. but they are only 99% guaranteed. All you need is that 1% to screw up the rest of your life. You wanna risk that? So think about it.. this dude believes in friendly fucks.. so how many has he done it with? Was he always safe? :o
Anyway, I got a story to tell.... my own story about my current gf/fiancee. I'll tell that tomorrow la.. wanna sleep already. Working shift work tomorrow. G'nite all!
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